July 31, 2007

A Father’s Worst Nightmare Comes True (Almost)

Got this amazing piece forwarded by a friend. Very smart story, but it will hit you on various levels if you are a father, and more importantly if you have a daughter (I do – 8 year old!). – Ravi Jayagopal.


“A father passing by his teenage daughter’s bedroom was astonished to see the bed was nicely made and everything was neat and tidy. Then he saw an envelope propped up on the centre of the pillow. It was addressed “Dad”. With the worst premonition, he opened the envelope and read the letter:

Dear Dad,

It is with great regret & sorrow that I’m writing you, but I’m
leaving home.I had to elope with my new boyfriend Randy because
I wanted to avoid a scene with Mom & you. I’ve been finding real passion
with Randy & he is so nice to me. I know when you meet him you’ll like him
too -even with all his piercing, tattoos, & motorcycle clothes.

But it’s not only the passion Dad, I’m pregnant & Randy said
that he wants me to have the kid & that we’ll be very happy
together. Even though Randy is much older than me
(anyway,40 isnt so old these days is it?),& has no money,
really these things shouldn’t stand in the way of our relationship,
don’t you agree?

Randy has a great CD collection; he already owns a trailer in the woods
& has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. It’s true he has
other girlfrnds as well but I know he’ll be faithful to me in his own
way. Randy taught me that marijuana doesn’t really hurt anyone and he’ll
be growing it for us and we’ll trade it with our friends for all
the cocaine and ecstasy we want.

In the meantime, we’ll pray that science will find a cure for AIDS
so Randy can get better; he sure deserves it!!

Don’t worry Dad, I’m 15 years old now and I know
how to take care of myself. Someday I’m sure we’ll be back
to visit so you can get to know your grandchildren.

Your loving daughter,
Rosie

At the bottom of the page were the letters ‘PTO’
Hands trembling, her father turned the sheet, and read:

PS: Dad, none of the above is true. I’m over at the
neighbour’s house.I just wanted to remind you that there are worse
things in life than my report card that’s in my desk centre drawer.
Please sign it and call when it is safe for me
to come home. I love you !!

July 10, 2007

Back to School Means New Environment, New Odors


(ARA) – If you have kids, from the time they’re in the cradle to when they move into a college dorm and everywhere in between, they need help keeping their stuff clean. And when back to school season arrives, the backpack, sports duffle, locker and dorm room all take on smells of their own.

The forgotten banana in the backpack, sweaty hockey gear left in the duffle or last week’s turkey sandwich in the locker all create tough odors. You may be able to stick the backpack in the washer but smells often linger even after being washed. And you can’t wash out their locker at school.

An easy solution for both problems is to drop a Fresh Wave Pearl Sachet into the pocket of their backpack. The kids hang the pack in their locker where it further attracts and rids the locker of bad odors. The packet attracts the odorous molecules from the locker as well as the backpack to keep both smelling fresh.

Fresh Wave, a unique odor neutralizing product comprised of a proprietary blend of Soya, natural extracts of Lime, Pine Needle, Aniseed, Clove and Cedarwood, comes in a variety of forms. Independent laboratories’ research and data prove that Fresh Wave products are effective for eliminating all kinds of odors.

How does it work? When the mixture of natural elements is activated by airflow, it attracts captures and neutralizes odor molecules. All that remains is a clean, natural-smelling environment, with no masking fragrances and no harsh chemicals.

When the kids go off to college for the first time, many will stay in the dormitories. Dorm rooms have smells of their own from last year’s occupants and probably the previous ones. Not only is this smell not welcoming, but can be intolerable. Not to mention the odors that come from some roommates who aren’t especially tidy.

You can’t follow your kids there to help, but you can send along something to help them keep their space smelling more like home. Make a college survival kit, including things like a set of utensils and dishes, homemade cookies, a picture of the family dog and something to help keep their space smelling fresh and clean.

If you think your kids would never use it, think again. The Fresh Wave Gel is so simple. They just open the jar and set it in an inconspicuous spot for continuous, safe odor removal. Air currents in the room waft over the open jar allowing the gel to soak up odorous molecules. You can send a new jar with them every semester for a fresh, clean-smelling living environment — so much better for studying!

And for the conscientious student, drop a small bottle of the Fresh Wave spray into their packs for those times when they pull an all-nighter and don’t have time for a change of clothes before class. The spray eliminates all kinds of odors, even cigarette smoke, for a fresh, clean smell without masking perfumes.

For more information and locations that carry Fresh Wave products, visit www.fresh-wave.com.

Courtesy of ARAcontent

February 20, 2007

Teen ‘sport killings’ of homeless on the rise

All Nathan Moore says he wanted to do was smoke pot and get drunk with his friends.

Killing Rex Baum was never part of the plan that day in 2004.

“It all started off as a game,” Moore said.

The 15-year-old and his friends were taunting the homeless man — throwing sticks and leaves — after having a couple of beers with him.

No big deal, Moore says, but he’s sorry for what came next.

Full story

January 26, 2007

Teenagers and dads – The “Teens Don’t Like Adults” Myth

As a father of two teenage daughters (15 and 17) I have continually heard the comment that goes something along the lines of “Whoa, that’s a tough age. I guess you’ll get to talk to them again in six years!”

I have also run into numerous dads (moms too) that say, “Yeah, my kids don’t even want to be around me these days. They are so into their friends.”

The first comment is a myth. The second is a cop out.

Granted, teenagers want their independence, but they still want their parents in their lives. More on this later.

What I believe happens is that parents get intimidated and busy and stop taking the time to ask children simple, conversational questions about their lives.

Nothing can be more intimidating than walking into a room of seven teenagers talking about music or anything, and feeling completely outnumbered, out-cultured, and out of sorts. It is easier to walk away than say, “What’s going on?” It is easier to walk away than ask that new pimply-faced boy you haven’t seen before, “Where do you go to school? “How are the grades going? Where did you go to middle school?” This starts the dialogue. Walk into the teenage fray we must. Take a deep breath, walk in, and ask away!

Let’s face it: we parents are human beings too. And half the time these kid’s parents have stopped talking to them and their teachers are basically time police. You may be the first adult who has asked them a considered question in the last month. People, even teenagers, love to talk about themselves. So if you give them half a chance they will. You can become an oasis of freedom to talk about themselves. This goes for your own children as well. It doesn’t have to be an interrogation. Just a question about school, about a friend, about music. You don’t have to be cool or “in the know.” “Who is that group? Are they popular?” You don’t have to know that Eminem is back with Kim. The key, I believe, is to not give up on the initial push back – or non-push back in the case of teenagers. They won’t be forthcoming. They won’t answer. They may shrug and say “Oh, nothing.” But believe me they want to talk. They are dying to talk. Even if they don’t.

Some how to’s:

1. Be the house they can come to. Let kids gather at your house. Anytime.

2. Food. Have lots of food. Kids (especially boys) love food. Don’t take, “I’m not hungry,” for an answer. Teenagers are always hungry. Food is the lubricant for talk.

3. Don’t be judgmental. I am not saying to let them have drugs in your house. But don’t let the disapproval of a little tattoo or funky hair on your kids friends show on your face.

4. In and out. Don’t hover. Come in, ask a few questions. Then get out. Let them breath.

5. Rules are OK. I like to keep them reciprocal. I respect you. You respect me is my favorite. I don’t talk to you that way, you don’t talk to me that way.

One last word on kids wanting you in their lives: Have you ever met a thirty year old that said, “I sure wish my parents hadn’t been in my life when I was a teenager.” I haven’t. Mostly we hear the opposite. Kids might be confused, they might even be angry. They may even be embarrassed by you – but then again everyone’s parents are an embarrassment. But, you are like the old best friend that you haven’t seen in ten years. Even though they would never tell you, your kids want to see you and most importantly, talk to you.

“Teens Don’t Like Adults” is a Myth. Don’t buy into it.

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