December 27, 2007

Are You A “Helicopter Parent”?

Vicky Tuck, the principal of Cheltenham Ladies’ College, claims that some mothers and fathers are hindering their child’s ability to learn and become self-sufficient because they are constantly hovering overhead, supervising and directing.

The trend towards parents confiding in their children and treating them like mini-counsellors is also preventing children from being carefree and learning from their mistakes, she believes.

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The term “helicopter parenting” was coined by Madeleine Levine, an American clinical psychologist, who claimed in her book The Price of Privilege: “Kids are unbearably pressured not just to be good, but to be great; not just to be good at something, [but] to be good at everything.”

Full Story: ‘Helicopter parents’ hinder children’s learning

December 8, 2007

Parenting Imperfect: Realities of life hard to break to kids

Very good article about kids and preparing them for reality…

Most talks about the unpleasant realities of life can wait. Taxes, for example, can be back-burnered until your kid actually has an income. Heartbreak, too, can wait until after puberty.

The talk about death isn’t quite as predictable.

The Diva has known about the concept for a few years. For her third birthday, we got her a five-gallon aquarium and a score of pink tetras. One month into her fourth year, we’d already flushed most of them.

October 2, 2007

Britney’s Kids: From the Fire to the Frying Pan

Q: What’s just slightly better than not having Mom Britney take care of you?

A: Ending up Dad Federline!

Poor kids, I really pity them. And to think that this is just the beginning!

September 7, 2007

When You Can No Longer Help Your Child with Their Homework

(ARA) – Many of us remember when our kids were young and helping them with their homework was fun, but that pleasure can turn to pain once they enter high school.

Even if you took the same courses they are now struggling with — algebra, American literature, physics, chemistry and Spanish, to name a few — those days can suddenly seem like a very long time ago. In fact, according to the May 2005 MSI-ACI Homework Study, more than two-thirds of parents experience frustration when helping their children with homework, citing the main problems as a lack of knowledge, a lack of resources and a lack of time.

Hiring a tutor is an option, but that can get very expensive. One helpful tool is Microsoft Student with Encarta Premium 2008, an all-in-one software suite that helps students write research papers, solve difficult math and science problems, and learn foreign languages.

“Microsoft Student helps young scholars be more productive with their homework,” says Dave Brooks, product manager for Microsoft Student at Microsoft Corp. “Instead of just giving kids the answers, it shows them how to find those answers themselves. And it gives parents a resource they can use when they’re too busy — or simply unprepared — to help their kids with their homework.”

Ann Mackinnon of Minneapolis recently purchased the software to help her 14-year-old son, Ian, with his math and Spanish studies. “Things have changed so much since I was in college,” she says. “Even with the advanced math I took, the methodologies are different, so I couldn’t help my son the way I wanted to. This tool helps him help himself and makes everything much more visual.”

Mackinnon explained that instead of just giving Ian the solution, the software solves math problems step by step, just like Ian would in class. And a graphing calculator with 2-D and 3-D capabilities gives him a more visually engaging learning experience. Microsoft Student also includes a foreign language help section, covering French, German, Italian and Spanish.

According to the May 2005 MSI-ACI Homework Study, 84 percent of kids use a PC to do their homework, but 61 percent of parents say their kids don’t always find what they need on the Web. Even when they do find information, it’s hard to tell whether it’s accurate. Microsoft Student includes a premium version of the Microsoft Encarta encyclopedia, giving students an easy way to find information they can trust for reports or research papers.

Microsoft Student is available for download for $49.95 (U.S.) at http://www.microsoft.com/student. Microsoft Math, an enhanced version of the math features included in Microsoft Student, is available separately on the same site for $19.95.  

“The most important part of helping my son with homework is getting him to the point where he can do it himself,” Mackinnon says. “It not only empowers him, but it saves me time. After all, parents don’t like spending hours on homework any more than kids do.”  

Courtesy of ARAcontent

July 31, 2007

A Father’s Worst Nightmare Comes True (Almost)

Got this amazing piece forwarded by a friend. Very smart story, but it will hit you on various levels if you are a father, and more importantly if you have a daughter (I do – 8 year old!). – Ravi Jayagopal.


“A father passing by his teenage daughter’s bedroom was astonished to see the bed was nicely made and everything was neat and tidy. Then he saw an envelope propped up on the centre of the pillow. It was addressed “Dad”. With the worst premonition, he opened the envelope and read the letter:

Dear Dad,

It is with great regret & sorrow that I’m writing you, but I’m
leaving home.I had to elope with my new boyfriend Randy because
I wanted to avoid a scene with Mom & you. I’ve been finding real passion
with Randy & he is so nice to me. I know when you meet him you’ll like him
too -even with all his piercing, tattoos, & motorcycle clothes.

But it’s not only the passion Dad, I’m pregnant & Randy said
that he wants me to have the kid & that we’ll be very happy
together. Even though Randy is much older than me
(anyway,40 isnt so old these days is it?),& has no money,
really these things shouldn’t stand in the way of our relationship,
don’t you agree?

Randy has a great CD collection; he already owns a trailer in the woods
& has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. It’s true he has
other girlfrnds as well but I know he’ll be faithful to me in his own
way. Randy taught me that marijuana doesn’t really hurt anyone and he’ll
be growing it for us and we’ll trade it with our friends for all
the cocaine and ecstasy we want.

In the meantime, we’ll pray that science will find a cure for AIDS
so Randy can get better; he sure deserves it!!

Don’t worry Dad, I’m 15 years old now and I know
how to take care of myself. Someday I’m sure we’ll be back
to visit so you can get to know your grandchildren.

Your loving daughter,
Rosie

At the bottom of the page were the letters ‘PTO’
Hands trembling, her father turned the sheet, and read:

PS: Dad, none of the above is true. I’m over at the
neighbour’s house.I just wanted to remind you that there are worse
things in life than my report card that’s in my desk centre drawer.
Please sign it and call when it is safe for me
to come home. I love you !!