April 9, 2007

Parenting: Double Trouble or Double the Fun

“As far as I remember, as soon as I was old enough to start thinking about it, I wanted to have two kids, preferably twins so that I would do the hard work only once. I also allowed myself to imagine it would be one boy and one girl so that I could experience the best of both worlds.

Well, that’s beside the point. What I want to document here are the dilemmas and tough decisions you take when you are bringing up twins. A mom of more than one kid also goes through similar dilemmas but when the kids are twins (or more?) things are different in many respects. Before the Moms of multiple singletons begin to protest – ladies, I just said different, I did not say more difficult or less difficult! And that goes for the Dads too, I hate to leave them out of this.

So here goes.”

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April 6, 2007

A little parenting magic

“I like classical music. Not as much as I like Rod Stewart classics, mind you, but well enough.

But I never bought into the notion, prevalent throughout my four children’s babyhood, that there was a small window of time to really shape a baby’s brain. And that flooding that brain with Mozart or other classical music during those years was one key way to make a baby smarter. That understanding was based on “research” in the 1990s that just always seemed … a little too easy to me.”

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Mead writes that “there’s a problem … with the new conventional wisdom about building brighter babies: it’s based on misinterpretations and misapplications of brain research.”

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The Challenges And Rewards Of Foster Parenting

“THE PRACTICAL purpose of foster parenting is to provide hurting children — anywhere from birth up to age 19 — a welcoming but temporary family environment. The goal, whenever possible, is to reunite them with their parents once authorities believe it is safe to do so.

But for many foster parents, what began as a relationship that was expected to last maybe just a few months or a year at most can become life-long, even without the children being formally adopted.

“I have kids that come back Christmas, Easter, their birthdays, my birthday,” says Burnaby, BC foster parent Jan Chapman. “I do have some [to whom] I really became a parent. . . . They’re grown up, they have children, but they still need that sounding board.”

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April 5, 2007

Parenting Tips From Childhood: No Two Fingers Are Alike

“I still remember standing in front of my third grade teacher’s desk and looking at my parents apprehensively. It was my report day, my older sister had come first in her class and I had barely passed, by the skin of my teeth, as it were.

My knees trembled, knowing a beating was in store for me once we reached home and for once I wanted to stay put in school and hide my head in my teacher’s lap but it wasn’t going to be so, it never happened that way.

1) Hitting a child never works. The child merely becomes more stubborn and rebellious.
2) Time out works better to calm a child down and make him/her think about the naughty deed done.
3) Threats rarely work, kids get used to threatening parents.
4) Never compare kids with other siblings that causes low self esteem and festers sibling rivalry”

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April 2, 2007

Successful Single Parenting

“So, you’re a single parent. Take heart: You are not alone.

It is ever more common for a parent—father or mother—to end up facing the challenges of life without a mate but with children. In the United States, single-parent households more than tripled between 1990 and 2002. Now, almost 3 in 10 American children under age 18 live with only one parent. Fully 10 million women lead their households alone; 2.3 million men face the same challenge. The trend is similar in other Western nations.

Raising a family is a tough job even for two parents. Being a single parent—acting as both dad and mom—is daunting and demanding. Yours is not an easy task.”

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