April 12, 2007

Where Do Kids Learn From?

Here’s a news item that just shocked me in more ways than one.

1. Where does a little child learn to throw a tantrum so violent?

2. In any other country, this child would’ve gotten a big beating either by her teacher, or her parents, or both. Is arresting this child a better way to “teach a lesson” to a 6 year old? By sending her to jail and by her having a police record for the rest of her life? Or would the child have been better off just getting a spanking? Sometimes I wonder what this world’s coming to, when I see terrorists and rapists and criminals going scott-free, and the police charging a 6-yr old who was scared of the intimidating police officers and hid under a table, with “attempt to resist arrest”!

Here’s the full story: Kindergartner Charged With Felony Tantrum

April 11, 2007

Parenting: Toddler gains by shadowing big sister

“Q: My son is 2 and his big sister is 6. He’s her little shadow, and in some ways that’s good: His vocabulary and other skills are great. But when they’re together he wants to do only what she does, and I wonder if he should be more independent.

A: We think your son is lucky to have his big sister to help him develop important experience and skills.”

Full story: Toddler gains by shadowing big sister

Sharing secrets of parenting

“TWO parenting experts divulged their secrets to an audience of Harrow mums and dads last week.

A seminar was arranged by Rachel Gardner, of BBC2 programme No Sex Please We’re Teenagers, and Rosemary Lamaison, a parent mentor for Pinner voluntary organisation Hope, to mentor local parents.

Members of Children First – mothers and fathers of children from 13 of the borough’s schools – were taught the importance of increasing self esteem in young people and enhancing their communication skills.”

Full story: Sharing secrets of parenting

April 10, 2007

Foster parenting is its own reward

“You may have your doubts as to whether investing your heart and soul into parenting someone else’s child is worth it, especially when you may be asked to help that same youngster return home to his or her parents.

Every child deserves to feel safe and loved, to be nurtured and cared for. Foster parenting is an opportunity to give of yourself and to make your home a temporary haven for a young person who has had little stability, suffered much hurt, and is in need of the reassurance that he or she is worth a commitment.

Foster parenting is a gift that lasts a lifetime. So what’s in it for you? Knowing that you did the best you could to give a child a better chance in life.”

Full story: Foster parenting is its own reward

April 9, 2007

Stop Crying – The art of re-framing

“Everyone cries, whether they are adults, children, male or female. People cry when they are happy, sad, angry, hurt, scared, proud or embarrassed. Children also cry when they are tired, dissatisfied, sick, hungry or just plain bored.

Sometimes children use crying as a means of getting their own way. Coddling children when they are old enough to know how to manipulate a situation by crying sends the message that turning on the tears is an affective way to get what they want.

The best way to get children to stop crying is by distracting them. If they forget why they are crying in the first place, they have no reason to continue crying. You might compare this to adults by thinking of something that makes you upset or worried. If you keep thinking about it, your mood will not improve; but by distracting yourself and thinking about or doing something else, you will forget that you are worried and be able to move on.”

Full story: Stop Crying – The art of re-framing