January 13, 2006

Bedtime and Kids: Is The Best Discipline Spanking?

By Kelly Nault
Parenting Question:
“Kelly, I’ve got five words for you: bedtime, kids, discipline, spanking and HELP! Our two sons are next to impossible to get to bed at night, and in the last while we’ve started spanking them. We’ve always threatened to, but really didn’t have to follow through. But when it started taking over 90 minutes to get them to bed, enough was enough! Now they are trying to hit us back, run around and it’s exhausting. I don’t know if you can help, but I would like to know what you might suggest.”

- Frazzled Bedtime Mom (and Dad!)

Positive Parenting Tip From Kelly Nault:

Dear Frustrated Mom:

Sounds like your family is burning the midnight oil and the fuel that is firing up this conflict is your sons� goal of power. The only question is, who will win?

My goal is to have you all win.

Resolving bedtime struggles is a common question and is an epidemic problem that plagues most households. If it�s not one more story, it’s ten more minutes of their favorite TV show or dawdling in the bathroom. Children will also manage to get their babysitters to let them stay up long past their bedtime. To avoid being conned or manipulated try my approach:

  1. Tell Them What You Are Going To Do.
    Say something like, “Part of what I love to do with you is read stories at bedtime, but sometimes I feel frustrated when bedtime takes a lot longer than it needs to be. So from now on I will be at your bedside promptly at ____p.m. to tuck you in. If you are not there at that time all ready to be tucked in, I will start getting ready for bed myself. If you would like a hug, you can come and find me for a quick one, but I will not return to your room.”
  2. Follow Through.
    As you stated, be in their room on time. If you feel it’s necessary, give them one five-minute warning. If they aren’t ready at the specified time, leave and be prepared to keep your mouth shut at all costs (regardless of tears, angry words, or pleads to be tucked in). Go into the bathroom, lock the door and get ready yourself. Give them one hug if they ask, then continue with your tasks. If they try to get you involved, simply say, “I’ll be happy to speak with you in the morning. Sweet dreams.” And that is all.

Lastly, know that your children will test you. Chances are your two boys will test you hard! Fortunately, this gives you the opportunity to be consistent in your new approach to discipline, kids, spanking and bedtime. As soon as your children realize that you are consistent in your new way to put them to bed, they will have no choice but to change their own.

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Kelly Nault, MA author of When You’re About To Go Off The Deep End, Don’t Take Your Kids With You inspires moms to put themselves first for the sake of their children. She shares time-tested tools that motivate children to want to be well behaved, responsible and happy! Sign up for her free online parenting course here.

Little Fingers Point To A Special Work-At-Home Idea

By Georganne Fiumara

Work often takes moms away from their children, but a new career idea actually brings moms and their babies closer while providing a way to earn money at home.

Here’s the idea: There is a way a baby can tell his parents exactly what he wants months before he can talk. No, it’s not magic or mindreading: It’s baby sign language. Parents all over the country are seeing the value of teaching their hearing babies to communicate using baby sign language and this has created a need for baby sign language instructors.

A new system is available to help interested moms become baby sign language instructors within days and and then market her services. It is called Kindersigns Career Kit, available at KinderCareers.com.

The creator, Diane Ryan, is a speech pathologist who teaches baby sign language. She explains, “There is no experience or educational background necessary to teach baby sign language. All you need is a love of babies and the desire to teach parents how to better communicate with their baby.”

Baby Sign Language Increases Trust and Decreases Frustration

Babies have a lot to say, but it takes many months before they can manipulate their little mouths, jaws and tongues to form words. When a hearing baby learns sign language, he gains the ability to communicate before he can speak. One mom of a signing baby confirms that baby’s first sign can be just as exciting as a first word.

Researchers tell us that the early years are prime time for acquiring language skills. It has been proven that baby sign language does not delay speech. In fact, hearing children who learn sign language have been shown to have a larger vocabulary when they do begin to speak and they have scored as much as 12 points higher on IQ tests in later years.

Most importantly, baby sign language increases trust between parent and child and decreases frustration for young children who cannot yet communicate with speech. Even older children love the “secret” communication that they can have with their parents in even the quietest of places.

It has also been reported that older siblings who sign with their baby brother or sister benefit from the early communication and sibling rivarly is reduced.

Baby Sign Language in Hollywood

In the film “Meet the Fockers,” twins and real-life baby signers, Bradley and Spencer Pickren, play a baby who uses baby sign language to talk to his grandfather played by Robert De Niro. TV’s Debra Messing (Will and Grace) has taught her young son baby sign language and has described the joy of baby signing on talk shows such as Live With Regis and Kelly and The Tonight Show.

All of this media attention has increased interest in baby sign language and increases the demand for new instructors.

Baby Signing Can Be A Business And A Pleasure

HomeWorkingMom.com, buys and evaluates work-at-home opportunies and reports on their findings so that moms can feel safe. They gave the Kindersigns Career Kit their top rating of 5 stars.

There is no doubt that baby sign language helps cement the parent-child bond with early communication skills that could last a lifetime. What a fulfilling way for a mom or anyone who loves babies to earn money at home!

For more information on the KinderSigns Career Kit, go to KinderCareers.com.

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About the Author: Georganne Fiumara founded Mothers’ Home Business Network (HomeWorkingMom.com) 21 years ago as a safe place for moms to get work-at-home information and ideas.